Are you confused between love and infatuation? Well, It can be really confusing! It is one of the most common question people ask Google “ How do I know if it’s love or infatuation?” But the truth is none of these answers describes true love. They describe infatuation. We can also call infatuation (also referred to as “lust”) as the shadow of love. Infatuation gives you goosebumps. They are same at first but infatuation is a short-lived passion for someone whereas love is a feeling of intense affection for another person. It generates positive feelings. Love is unconditional care for a person. Still not sure if it’s love or infatuation? Read on..
You Are Focused On What You Want From The Relationship
You have heard that some people get into a relationship and start dating, thinking of getting married, having kids and relocating to a tropical island for their retirement. But, after a few months later or years they hated everything about that person. This is infatuation, not love. In love, you feel secure but in infatuation, you focus on how to get the other person to like you, and you feel nervous because you don’t know how the other person feels. Infatuation is an emotion to someone else’s physical appearance.
Love doesn’t have a definition. Love won’t fade through time while infatuation does. Love is more than satisfying your needs and expectations solely. It is when you care for someone and stand with her/his problems. You want to see them grow, make you happy, gives you energy.
You Feel Like You Are on Cloud9
Being infatuated is a lot like feeling like you are on Cloud9. You can’t believe it, and all you can focus on is the fact that you found everything. If required, you’d be willing to skip work, boycott friends, cut out family members, and do anything else you have to do to get that person. Those things are all just distractions when it comes to that one thing that you can’t keep your mind off.
But, Real love isn’t like that. Real Love needs teamwork, understanding, lots of trusts, support and selflessness. Love makes you want to create a better life, it doesn’t matter what you have not had, you are rich or not. In love, you never find yourself boring. In an empty room, with no ongoing conversation but just you two, and you enjoy that silence too…IS LOVE.
You Can’t Wait To Take Your Relationship To The Next Step
Infatuation is all about making things happen. It is just about liking someone from the outside view. It involves selfishness of fulfilling your own wishes is what it is about. It makes you act irrationally or ‘crazy’. Infatuation flourishes on perfection – you only show your good site to your partner. In infatuation you want them to love you and commit to you because you scared to lose them.
But, in love, it doesn’t work that way. Love accepts the whole person, his / her flaws just fade away in front of their other attributes. Love improves your overall disposition and it takes the time to build. The truth is that it can take many years to learn about real love and the more you fall in love the more you love own life.
You Feel Disconnected And Alone
Infatuation is powerful but short lived it follows a timeline whereas love is timeless. Infatuation is when tough times comes up and they don’t stand by your side. When you face the lows in life, you become aware of the reality. They slide away, and you face a disconnection. You crave for their attention but in vain.
In love you feel connected because they are there for you, they are there to support you. You work together to solve many issues. They don’t think it’s good or bad time they always support you. You never feel alone because you know the person who loves you will always be there for you and you wish nothing more than to watch and help this person grow no matter what.
You Expect Perfection
Infatuation thinks love should be perfect. When you are infatuated with someone, you create a perfect image of that person in your mind, you create some unrealistic expectations. You want them to be just like you have thought in your mind. You don’t want any flaws on them.You don’t want to listen to them. You only think about how the relationship should go in your way.
In love, you accept that person as they are, you accept that person with his/her flaws, you accept wholly. You appreciates their defects and mistakes and loves them. You respect each other, understand each other and most important you live friendly in the tense time. You finds solace in their defects and love them.
You’ve Lost Interest Suddenly
A lot of people looking to find the meaning behind their emotions can relate to these signs. Since you’re here and are reading this article, there is a very good chance that you were infatuated. Infatuation is a short-lived passion for someone, while true love is a long-lived deep connection that stays the same even after the hardships. If you don’t feel the connection of true love anymore, you were just infatuated, and it is time to move on if you are not ready to give your time and energy in fixing what’s wrong.