You would never like to find yourself as an option. When you are in a relationship, it is natural that you have some expectation from your partner. But, sometimes people aren’t always genuine as they appear to your face. It hurts a lot when you discover that you have been just wasting your emotion and time on someone who never considered you a priority.
If you are not sure if you are wasting your time with your partner as their options. Check out these signs that will tell if you are a priority or just an option.
They don’t take you to important events, or big parties. They will ask you about your plans for what will you do in the evening, but they don’t want to take you out.
They won’t introduce you to their family. You are clearly an option when you are in a relationship with him/her for over a year, and s/he won’t introduce you to their family members.
They never show interest in your daily life. They forget important dates. If they really care for you, they would take the time to ask you what’s happening in your life.
You are not important to him when you are bothered, and he doesn’t worry about what’s going in your life.
It seems like you are an option when you are only the one who puts in all effort while he does nothing. It seems like a one-sided relationship.
They don’t help you when you need help from them, but if they always expect you to help them and if you didn’t help him then they get angry and pick a fight with you.
They take hours to reply your texts. Sometimes they take hours to answer if you confront him about it and they has nothing to say or gives excuses.
They make you feel bad or unhappy more than they make you happy.
If you can relate yourself with most of the points listed above, it is fair enough for us to say they you being taken as an option.
If you are in a serious relationship with someone, and still find yourself relating with the points, we would honestly ask you to talk about this with your partner. If s/he doesn’t resolves the issue, you must break up with him/her.
There is absolutely no point in forcing things to work. It’s only going to hurt you in the long run.